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    4 EMOTIONS

     

     

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  • FOUR EMOTIONS

     

    We experience and express the 4 emotions:

    • Emotional anger
    • Emotional sadness
    • Emotional fear
    • Emotional joy (yes.)

     

    Imagine trying to be in relationship, trying to solve problems, trying to be in a group, trying to hold a post in an organization, trying to be a politician or a mediator or a manager or a sergeant in the military, or trying to be a parent or teacher or healer and not being able to navigate the shadowy world of your emotions.

    It would be nearly impossible.

     

    This could explain a lot about the quality of your life so far...

    It could also explain a lot about the state of the world right now...

  • CONFUSING EMOTIONS

    ⚠️ If you have not visited the 4 Feelings Bubble before coming here, we strongly recommend that you have a look at it. The experiments in this Bubble rely on matrix built in the 4 Feelings Bubble. ⚠️

    Feelings and Emotions, 4 Emotions, startover.xyz, Possibility Management

    1- Emotions are not feelings &

    Feelings are not emotions.

    The thing is: emotions feel exactly like feelings.

    The good news is: emotions last longer than feelings. If an experience of anger, sadness, fear or joy last more than 5 minutes.

     

    The emotion of anger feels just like the feeling of anger, only it lasts longer than 5 minutes.

    Were you ever angry for more than 5 minutes? If yes, then it was not a feeling, it was emotional anger.

     

    The emotion of sadness feels just like the feeling of sadness, only it lasts longer than 5 minutes.

    Were you ever sad for more than 5 minutes? If yes, then it was not a feeling, it was emotional sadness.

     

    The emotion of fear feels just like the feeling of fear, only it lasts longer than 5 minutes.

    Were you ever afraid for more than 5 minutes? If yes, then it was not a feeling, it was emotional fear.

     

    The emotion of joy feels just like the feeling of joy, only it lasts longer than 5 minutes.

    Were you ever happy for more than 5 minutes? If yes, then it was not a feeling, it was emotional joy. This can be very discouraging news... it was for me. It ruined my life of the smiley face nice-boy, pretending to be happy as a show.

    Unmix Emotions, 4 Emotions, startover.xyz, Possibility Management

    2- Emotions can be mixed together

    And create a single experience that is very convincingly intense.

     

    Mixed emotions are so intense and all-consuming that you probably believe they are real feelings.

    But they are not. Mixed emotions are just emotions, a gateway for a healing process for you.

     

    For right now, think about this: did you ever feel jealous? How intense it was? It was probably so intense you could not taste your orange juice. Did you ever feel like getting revenge? Did you ever feel guilt? Did you ever feel shame? Did you ever feel despair? Did you ever feel hysterical? Did you ever feel depressed? These are only a few of the many mixed emotions it is possible to concoct for ourselves as a survival strategy instead of powerfully unmixing the emotions and using each one separately to powerfully handle things in your life.

     

    Until now very few people in the world know about the difference between feelings and emotions, and even fewer are able to use their emotions as gateways for healing processes.

     

    FIND EXPERIMENTS AND PROCESSES FOR UNMIXING EMOTION AT THE

    UNMIX EMOTIONS BUBBLE

  • EMOTIONAL HELL

    or?

    NC-RADIO.33 (1 matrix point)

     

    Emotions are a powerful invitation to experience a transformational healing process.

     

    We want to talk about emotions not because we think there is a problem, or we think we can make emotions go away simply by understanding them. We want to talk about emotions for a very practical reason: talking about emotions can bring you clarity about emotions, and this can change your life for the better. If you have clarity about emotions you can have a choice about going into the emotional states or not. You can also gain the power to distinguish between feelings and emotions and get your energy back from emotions. Emotions are a powerful invitation to experience a transformational healing process.

     

    The reason I chose to show a piece of Boticelli's painting of Dante's Inferno as the cover picture is because it is a thoughtmap. It is a thoughtmap of how Boticelli imagined Dante's version of hell. A map of hell could be quite useful if you were ever in hell and you wanted to find an exit and get out.

     

    Experiencing emotions and not knowing they are emotions (thinking they are feelings...) is a lot like being in hell. Knowing the thoughtmap of 4 feelings and the thoughtmaps of 4 emotions is an amazingly powerful aid to getting out of emotional hell. Feeling emotions is part of surviving. There is a huge difference between surviving, and living...

    Almost nobody...

    Almost nobody knows the distinctions between feelings and emotions.

    Feelings are for handling things.

    Emotions are for healing things.

     

    Dr. Gabor Mate probably meant that be stuffing the feelings are anger felt in the moment,

    the feeling of anger gets stored in your physical body as emotional anger,

    that emotional anger has consistently been shown to be linked to cancer.

     

    A professional branch of Possibility Managers has specialized in healing physical body ailments

    through emotional and energetic processes. They are the Feelings Practitioners.

     

    To be clear, the emotion of anger (or sadness, fear, joy) is not the problem,

    emotions are not a design error from the Universe

    The problem is that we have been taught over and over again that it is not okay to feel angry

    The problem is our numbness to the very things that make us alive.

  • Experiments!

    The 4 Emotions distinction is not something that you can simply understand and then think that something would be different because of your understanding.

    The emotions don't get healed by thinking about them. No matter how much you try to make sense of it.

    The only way forward is through.

    Through experiments.

    We've got you covered!

    Distinguish between Feelings and Emotions, Possibility Management

    Experiment 4EMOTION.01: Hold the distinction between feelings and emotions.

    Practical application of the new technology begins when you make and continuously hold this distinction:

    • Feelings arise in and of the present moment, come out of your authentic self, and vanish completely when applied.
    • Emotions feel like feelings but they last longer than 3 minutes in the present moment.
    That's all. Practice inquiring about each sensation of anger, sadness, fear and joy whether it is a feeling or an emotion.
    Hint: it is almost only emotions, and the first step in to 'realize' this in yourself.
    Write down Emotions

    Experiment 4EMOTION.02: Realize that it is (almost) all emotions (for now).

    You will need your Beep! Book in hand. (Side note: It is useful when experimenting to have your Beep! Book on you at all time.)

     

    When anger, sadness, fear or joy comes up, first notice it, then ask yourself the following questions in this order:

     

    1. What am I feeling? Is it anger, sadness, fear or joy? (Write down in your Beep Book which the feeling you are feeling)

    - If it is only one of them (rarely the case), go to 3.

    - If it two or more of them, go to 2.

     

    2. Which feelings am I feeling? (Write all of them down) Are they pure or in mixed form?

    - If they are in their pure form, go to 3.

    - If they are mixed, you first have to unmix them (go to the Unmix Emotions Bubble for the process of unmixing your emotions), then go to 3.

     

    3. What are you angry, sad, scared or happy about? Answer the question for each feeling separately. In your Beep! Book, write for example:

    "I feel angry about Mark because he was looking at his phone before saying hello to me this morning"

    "I feel sad about Mark because he doesn't want to connect with me anymore"

    "I feel scared about our relationship because he might not love me anymore"

    "I feel glad about Mark because he smiled at me afterwards and that means he cares about me"

    You might be angry, sad, scared or happy about multiple things at the same. Write them down too.

    When you have a clear list with the {feeling + about + because}, then go to 4.

     

    4. Pick one feeling about one thing (e.g.: anger about Mark because of the phone), then ask yourself the question: "Have I ever been angry before at someone because they would avoid acknowledging my presence while distracting themselves with something else?" The answer is probably Yes.

     

    Pick another one: (sad about Mark because he doesn't want to connect). "Have I ever been sad before about someone who I feel doesn't want to connect with me anymore?" The answer is probably Yes.

     

    If you have a feeling towards somebody and you've felt that feeling before then this is a BIG HINT that it is NOT a FEELING but an EMOTION.

     

    5. At the end of your notebook, make a list of the emotions as gateways for healing processes that you need to go through and bring them either to your regular Possibility Team or to your next Possibility Lab. Some healing process can be handled in Possibility Team, others are better done in a Lab. Please check in with your Team about how far they can hold space for & with you.

    do-over, startover.xyz, Possibility Management

    Experiment 4EMOTION.03: Have a do-over when you confuse a feeling with an emotion

    After practicing having the experiential distinction between feelings and emotions, you will come to have the associated experience that your emotions have actually nothing to do with the present moment (see above Projections).

     

    Instead of being in the present moment, you are projecting a past experience through your emotions on the present moment the same way the movie projector projects a film on a previously white screen. This is the experience of projection.

     

    The first time you notice this experience, it is quite shocking to say the least. You are talking to your neighbor, to the teacher of one of your kid, to your partner even, ... and you are feeling anger/sadness/fear/joy and it lasts for more than 3 minutes. Whatever you are feeling right now actually has nothing to do with them, they simply triggered an old emotion in your body. It can really feel like you are going crazy, or you might feel ashamed or guilty about the whole situation. You are talking to the wrong person.

     

    In the beginning, you will most probably realize this days after the interaction. Keep practicing your awareness of the distinction between feelings and emotions. At some point, you will catch yourself in the middle of an argument, pointing fingers, sobbing for attention and it will click: what I am feeling has nothing to do with this! At this moment, pause. Really pause. Let it sink into your 5 bodies that right now, you are emotionally reacting and projecting your reaction onto the present moment.

    Then turn to the person(s) who you have been interacting with and simply say: 'I'm sorry. I am having an emotion and it has nothing to do with you. I apologize that I used you for my own emotional wounds. I write it down in my Beep! Book and will through this emotional process. For now, can I have a do-over?'

    Story World, 4 Emotions, startover.xyz, Possibility Management

    Experiment 4EMOTION.04: Open a gap

    between your emotions and the story attached

    Gap in Identity, 4 Emotions, startover.xyz, Possibility Management

    Experiment 4EMOTION.05: Open a gap

    between you and your emotions

    WORK IN PROCESS, Possibility Management, startover.xyz

    Experiment 4EMOTION.06: Do every emotional process for a week

    This experiment is to do when you have been to at least one Expand The Box Training, and a couple of Possibility Labs.

     

    The experiment is that for one entire week, you commit to do every emotional process that come up.

     

    Logistics for the experiment:

    1. Location: For the entire duration of the week, be in a place where you have a safe room to go through an emotional process. This might mean that you need to take a week off work.

    2.1 Spaceholders and location: you will need one or more spaceholders to hold space for you while you go through those processes. You have multiple choices:

    - You move in with your spaceholder for a week. Some Possibility Coaches have made their practice to welcome people into their home.

    - You invite your spaceholder to move in with you in your apartment. Again some Possibility Coaches have made their practice to move in with people.

    - You can also do those processes online through Zoom (for example) while you stay in your home and your spaceholder is at theirs.

    2.2 Spaceholder(s): you can decide to have one spaceholder or more. For example, you decide for the online coaching, then you can make an agreement with 2 or more Possibility Coaches that you put them on speed dial on your phone and that you will call one of them every time an emotion is coming.

    3. Money: a Possibility Coaching usually costs between 150-250E/ session or 80E/hour.

    - One option is to pay your spaceholder per session. However, I would not recommend this option because your money scarcity might come in the way and you will hold back some emotional processes here and there to save money.

    - Another option is for example to pay them between 800-1000E/week for as many process as you can hold. You put the cards in your favor that you want your money's worth out of that week.

  • Grief & Praise by Martin Prechtel

    Grief and praise are the same thing, two side of the same coin

    With the ability to grieve what has passed, what you have lost or what has changed

    you praise all those things for having been in your life

     

    Having lost the ability to grieve, we lose the ability to praise what is precious and sacred

    Terrorized that if we might come to cherish something we might lose it and have no skills to be with that

  • FEELINGS ARE NOT EMOTIONS. EMOTIONS ARE NOT FEELINGS.

    Without understanding the difference between emotions and feelings we may struggle in relationship thinking that emotions and feelings are the same thing.

    Emotions and feelings are not the same thing.

     

    Without having this distinction on the pads of your fingers and the tip of your tongue you will keep being confused thinking that emotions are feelings when, in fact, emotions are not feelings.

    For our purposes: Emotions are incomplete feelings from the past or from someone else that feel present only because they are still locked in your body unexpressed.

     

    Emotions from the past are triggered through present association. That is, some detail in the present situation resonates with an uncompleted feeling that is stuck in your tissues from the recent or distant past. The resonance between the unprocessed emotion and the present situation awakens the unexpressed emotion as if it were a present experience.

     

    In actuality, this is the healing opportunity that you have been waiting for. The emotion is a signal announcing to your consciousness that there is an unexpressed feeling locked in your muscles that, in this moment, has a chance to be healed. The healing occurs through recognizing and understanding the emotion from the Adult perspective. The redeeming value of emotional pain is when the pain becomes conscious. Gaining clarity about the validity of the emotion and the cause of the emotion, in other words, by hearing the emotion’s personal painful story, completes the communication and vanishes the emotion forever. But since we are not trained or practiced at going through the process of completing communications, we instead think that the emotion is a real feeling. We assume that, since we are feeling anger, fear, sadness or joy, the emotion must be a true and justified reaction to the person standing in front of us, or to our present circumstances that “caused” the emotion. Lacking clarity about what is really happening, we project our emotion onto the person or circumstance. We blame the other person, we react with fear and anger toward the circumstance, we feel sad or depressed, and this is how we create spending our days and our nights in Ordinary Human Relationship. I tell you, the moment I realized that all the joy I had been feeling fairly consistently since my childhood was actually emotional joy and not a real feeling at all, it ruined my day.
    Although both feelings and emotions at first feel the same and fall into one of the four categories of anger, sadness, joy or fear, it is very easy to experientially distinguish emotions from feelings. Here is how: Feelings are triggered, they arise, the energy and information get used, and then, within a minute or so, they are completely gone from your body. Emotions on the other hand, are triggered, they arise, and then no matter how you seem to express them, they persist in your experience.
    Did you ever feel scared and then an hour later you were still scared? That is emotional fear. Did you ever feel angry and then a day later you were still angry? That is emotional anger. Did you ever feel sad and then a week later you were still sad? That is emotional sadness. If you feel a feeling and five minutes later you are still feeling that feeling, it is not a feeling at all. It is an emotion. By paying attention you will soon learn to backtrack along the course of the feeling to its point of origin. If the point of origin of the feeling experience is in the wordless present, it is a feeling. If the point of origin of the feeling experience is a sentence or a picture in your mind’s eye, it is an emotion.
    I still remember the moment when at thirty-eight years old I experienced my first Adult feeling. My anger arose to 100-percent intensity, was used to make a boundary communication with a petty tyrant, completed itself and vanished from my body in less than a minute. In the next moment I was talking with a different person about something else entirely, freely laughing as if nothing had occurred just a moment before. This was so new and strange that at first I thought perhaps I was going insane. But then I realized, “This is what it feels like to have a real feeling.”
    To avoid letting emotions run their automatic and often obnoxiously disruptive course in your relationships, you need only open the smallest gap between the picture or thought that triggers the emotion and the Box’s automatic reactionary machinery. You have about one instant of time to open this gap. Opening the gap will stall out the mechanical process. Like with an orgasm, once the Box’s machinery starts chugging away there is no stopping it until it runs its full course – you must ride it out, and precious time and energy are lost in the meantime. But, if you blast a little gap between the origin of the emotion and the Box’s reaction mechanism, then the machine never starts going. Sense the trigger being stimulated; throw in the gap; hold the gap in place; wait a few seconds, and in those few seconds the triggering momentum will die out. Let the train come into the station but do not get on the train. Wait. Wait. Make no sudden moves. Soon the train will proceed on its way, not taking you with it. Then you can stay in the blissful present.
    A straightforward way to blast the gap between the triggering thought or picture and the emotional reaction mechanism is by naming the emotion as an emotion. In your mind, or out loud if you like, you distinguish the experience by giving it a name: “This trigger is only an emotion.” Hold that thought. Tag the incident for later work if you want, but do the work at some other time . . . and away from the person or the circumstance with whom you are presently involved. The emotion has nothing at all to do with the person standing in front of you. They simply provide the triggering-association stimulus. Be grateful for the learning opportunity they have provided. Then drastically change the subject of your conversation.
    An emotional reaction reveals a wound that still needs healing. If you make a practice of inserting gaps between the triggering circumstances and the ensuing emotional reaction, then the healing will tend to take care of itself. Growing up involves learning that you do indeed have unhealed wounds, and also realizing, “So what?” You can never heal all the old wounds anyway. Say thanks to the triggering experience, thanks to any other people involved, thanks to your own discipline to not get on the emotional-machinery train, thanks to the gap, then go on creating for yourself and other people experiments in Extraordinary Human Relationship overflowing with Extraordinary Human Love.